The First Dance
As the wedding reception begins, all eyes are on bride and groom as they join together for their first dance. For several years now, brides and grooms have signed up for ballroom dance classes, and this tradition has now evolved from basic dance lessons that couples took to learn the steps of a waltz to a far more personalized dance….sometimes in a style that surprises and delights guests.
Brides and grooms now enlist the services of professional dance instructors to choreograph their first dance, impressively tailoring dance steps to the skill levels of the bride and groom. The result is so much more than the ‘swaying back and forth’ dance or the box step dance with awkward arm movements that some brides and grooms seemed to just want to get through. Now, brides and grooms are putting on a performance, such as a sultry yet still family-friendly tango, or a dance with lifts, dips and twirls that the choreographer has designed with thought to the bride’s movement ability in her wedding gown. After weeks of working with a dance pro, the couple takes to the dance floor confidently, ready to show off their skills, as ‘their song’ plays.
In an additional new trend, the bride and her father, as well as the groom and his mother, might also sign up for dance classes and choreography, so that their spotlight dances will be equally impressive. After all, a spectacular first dance by the bride and groom is immediately followed by the father-daughter and mother-son dances, and parents also want to look confident and impressive for their spotlight performances.
Sometimes, a fun-loving couple will arrange for their first dance to lead into a group dance performance led by them and including their bridal party members. That number might be a well-known celebrity’s dance from a video, or it might also be a completely original, choreographed dance that starts the party off with a thrilling performance, and provides priceless wedding video footage as well.
Best,
Michael Mahle, Director of Communications, Pleasantdale Château
By, Caitlyn Bradley, Director of Sales and Catering, Pleasantdale Château
Let’s hear it for commitment! We’re seeing more married couples in the New York metro area having ceremonies to renew wedding vows. What makes these ceremonies especially meaningful is that they’re completely voluntary. When a couple gets married, the wedding ceremony is practically a given, and all the attendant social obligations that go with it means the couple don’t always get to enjoy it quite as much as they might in a more relaxed ceremony. But when vows are renewed, there aren’t two families to please, or parents to appease. It’s a real display of deep and enduring love.
New rings engraved with a special saying are perfect to commemorate the renewal of wedding vows. An outside ceremony is often very fitting if you want the ceremony to be about rebirth. No need to be traditional with the wedding vows, either – you’ve done that once already. Instead, you can have your vows end with a poem that you find fitting, for example. For music you can use the song from your wedding or one that has meant something to you over the years. Renewing vows can be an intimate gathering with a simple lunch or brunch or a lavish formal affair.
Best,
Andrew
By Roman Bienkiewicz, Banquet Manager, The Manor
Looking for a way to keep the cost of your wedding in check? Rethinking the plans for your reception dinner can provide some significant opportunities for savings, without skimping on the hospitality you offer guests. Consider a buffet instead of a formal sit-down meal. A multi-course sit down meal is more expensive than a buffet for two major reasons:
First, the server-to-guest ratio is much higher for a sit down meal: the wait staff has to be large enough to make sure everyone is served their courses almost simultaneously. Secondly, the food selections can be pricey for a sit down meal, if guests are offered choices like steak and lobster, seafood appetizers and other premium items. With a buffet, the size of the wait staff can be considerably smaller. That alone can save significantly on costs. If you want to save even more, you can choose a menu that provides lots of variety and ample quantities of food at a lower cost per person than a surf and turf meal, for example.
But buffet doesn’t have to mean “budget” in the menu department. For example, here at The Manor, we’re well known among regular customers for our Lobster Buffet evenings. And now the Lobster Buffet is becoming a popular choice at the wedding receptions we host. There are additional reasons beyond cost that can make a buffet a good choice. Your guests can serve themselves as much or as little as they want, unlike a sit down meal where all portions are the same size. It can also create a more informal ambiance. And by encouraging guests to move about the dining room and serve themselves, it can get guests to interact with each other more. And a buffet is also a festive display in its own right. Even though it costs less than a comparable sit down meal, a buffet looks impressive – and mouthwatering! So when it comes time to plan the menu for your reception, talk to your caterer about your buffet options, and you’ll have some tasteful, money saving ideas to consider.
Thanks!
Roman
By Rolf Shick, Banquet Manager, The Manor
As much as they love you, attending a wedding can be an expensive proposition for your guests: gift, transportation, maybe a new suit or dress. Saving them money might get some who are undecided about your invitation to come. Some guests might be traveling from great distances. They’re going to need a place to stay. One great way to save them money and also make the festivities more fun is by partnering with a hotel near the site of your ceremony. You can arrange for discounted rates by blocking a set of rooms. This also makes it easy for your guests to socialize before and after the ceremony as well. The facility where you’re having your reception may have an arrangement with area hotels. For example, a wedding at any of our three West Orange, New Jersey properties – the Manor, Pleasantdale Chateau or the Highlawn Pavilion – will get you top priority at our local Residence Inn.
You may also be able to arrange shuttle transportation with the hotel to and from the wedding, saving your guests wear and tear as well as money – and making it easy for them to celebrate safely. Remember, don’t drink and drive!
Here’s something else you can do when you designate a nearby hotel as “action central” and book a block of rooms: You can put together great welcome packages for guests with snacks, a bottle of wine and information for local things to do in the area. This is a great way for out of town guests to feel special and appreciated!
Thank you,
Rolf
Barbra Streisand once said something that struck me as interesting, something I think brides-to-be can relate to. She said, “I’ve been called many names like perfectionist, difficult and obsessive. I think it takes obsession, takes searching for the details for any artist to be good”.
My point here is that the larger things associated with weddings (the limo, the photographer, the venue, the flowers, etc.) are, once you’ve hired the right people, in good hands. And once that’s been done, you can focus on the details of your wedding – the things that will truly make your wedding stand out from the others. Read more…
